What If One Fails ?

At times in life, we realize a very uneasy situation that we failed. The failure has various forms- failure in relationship, responsibility, friendship, performance in study or sports e.t.c. The feeling of failure either crashes our future plans or prepares us to face even worse situations and influences us to do better. Now it depends on us how we take the failure and deal with the consequences.

A few people run away from the consequences of the failure. I don't get it. Running away from our own failure is like cheating ourselves which is fatal to our confidence and previous achievements. Rather, we should try to know the reason behind "why we failed?" and try harder this time to pay back. We just have to revise our methodology mentally and compare them with the ideal. That will help us find the situations that led to failure.

Finding reasons of failure is absolutely easy, but taking the responsibility of the mistake is tough. On very rare occasions, the reason for failure is circumstance. But, most of the times it is our mistake. I feel there is no second opinion on this matter. If the situation made us weak even though we were totally prepared for the worse, I would say that the failure was destined and we would get something very soon that suits us. But, if the introspection reviles that the sole reason is our mistake, ignorance of our responsibility or carelessness, we need to work on it rather than running away.

Repenting the failure should be performed immediately. If done, we will feel much better doesn't matter how disastrous the failure was. Action must be taken to know why we missed our shot. Consulting trustworthy experts is always a good option. We should admit our situation, the way we performed the responsibility that we failed in and the results of the introspection to them. The experts may help us to know the areas we lacked in and guide us through repairing the situation.

Another option is to apologize to those affected by our mistakes. This will surely ease the burden of guilt and the confidence will flourish again. The state of shame must never hinder our progress. Help must be taken from better performers if we fail and promise ourselves to be careful in the future. Ambition is the last refuge of the failure. Realize it to find the right way to success.

"Success consists of going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm.
Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts."          -Winston Churchill

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Sometimes you're ahead, sometimes you're behind...the race is long, and in the end, it's only with yourself.

               -Mary Schmich 

A Tribute to Women

Context : Women gaining their position in Indian society

Decades ago, the human society was supposed to be dominated by men and it was never difficult for men as well as women to accept that. However, as years passed by, many women like Indira Gandhi, Sania Mirza e.t.c stunned the entire human civilization by exhibiting the excellence of their works in various fields. Consequently, women are considered equal contributors for the Indian development in the current century. It is definitely a welcome change.

Women have always been the pillars of strength of a family.
Let us understand how :

A Mother and A Wife : She is married to a supportive man and leaves behind her home, family and friends to meet the new phase of her life at an entirely different environment. She is now related to several people in several ways. She drifts from her childhood passion and serves the married life. She is calm, so gentle and caring, very sweet. Many of her little as well as great contributions to the family remain unnoticed, but still she is always the same mother and wife. Living in her presence is so peaceful and a life like heaven. Hardly caring about her own fantasies and dreams, she is completely devoted to help her husband, in-laws and children to progress and live a better life.

A Sister : She is always like your second mother, doesn't matter if she is elder than you or smaller. She approaches you everyday with a cute smile and asks about your progress and happenings. Whenever you are in trouble, it takes her no time to understand that and post-inspection, she calms you down with sweet words, soothing smile, that radiant eye and motivating enthusiasm. Her presence gives you a strength and you feel like doing something great for at least the expectations and the hopes she has. She will never ever leave you alone.

A Daughter : She is more focussed to keep winning laurels than think about anything else. Her actions are always dedicated to her parents. I have seen a couple of daughters who either don't have a father or a mother. In absence of a mother, she takes care of her father so well that the absence of a woman in the house is well filled by her cheerful attitude, wonderful habit of keeping the home clean and optimism. In absence of a father, she is always alert before her mother takes a decision. She always shares her progress and supports her mother by her intellect, hard work and warmth.

The origin of Women power can be well experienced by some of the excellent example set by women achievers who represent the Indian women force in Business, Sports, Politics, TV soap operas, Science, Glamour and many more. I am talking about some great personalities like Indira Nooyi, Saina Nehwal, Smt. Pratibha Patil, Smriti Irani, Kalpana Chawla, Priyanka Chopra, e.t.c. These women have set up the standards for women by their confidence, passion and achievements. They became the source of displaying the era of women which always existed. Their works have forced the Man dominated society to notice and respect the role women play in daily life for making the human resource better.

The origin has now marked the stage of several subsequent events: 

1. Girls in colleges and schools work extremely hard to achieve good results and hence keep gaining confidence to succeed. 

2. Women have started experiencing freedom of speech, freedom of dressing, travelling, studying and many more. 

(I personally wish they'll start experiencing the remaining freedoms one day)

3. Women are given opportunities to work for large organizations and giant projects.

The list is getting bigger and bigger.

I believe that the masculine intervention in the life of women must be minimized and they should be given chance to prosper and succeed. In parallel to this, men and women can always seek each other's advices to live happily.

Let the good days always keep rolling with equal rights of MEN and WOMEN 

   

Can LIFE taste them all ???

Our life is full of desires and expectations. As humans, we do have lots of aspirations. We seek to achieve everything that could give us excellence and some special identity. In order to get them all we are running everyday and trying hard to make us a better person and an achiever. However, there are so many creative stuffs around us too. But, is it possible to do them all at once?

We watch people involved in so many interesting activities like- Dancing, singing, writing, playing, e.t.c. As holders of such an exceptional and wonderful mind, even we get up enthusiastically to try and taste these interesting stuffs. Then at some part of our minds, we may disagree. We also take into consideration the fact that " Am I really supposed to do this? What about my real goal? " And at the end of the day, we conclude that we are not meant for all of these. I am sure that many of you will disagree. But there is also one more divine truth that we differ in terms of our capability. Few people enjoy all the primary (related to GOAL) things as well as secondary (creativity) things at once, yet succeed towards the goal. But, there some people also in the category where they have to give more input towards the primary things to succeed. Ultimately they are not left with time to enjoy the creativity that world offers. It doesn't mean they don't want to enjoy them. But yes, they remain bound to constraints and can't break them. Such people realize voids in their life and many times get disheartened. They feel that their life has become boring and joyless. Moreover, people around them promote such feelings by saying things.

The point that I want to make is - we can experience all the interesting things of the World. But there is a definite time for everything. We must not feel guilt about being boring or not enjoying them. The period which we are going through deserves our hard work towards our GOAL rather than blindly enjoying and trying to taste all the attractions. At some point of time we must realize what we want to be and what is the primary requirement to achieve it.
This was all about making proper choices.

Several times we come across situations in our life when it seems "We are losing everything". Even being stuck to primary activities and working hard, we could not deliver appropriately. The feeling becomes worse when we start comparing ourselves with the winners of the previous battle which we also fought and lost. Friends, we must never make comparisons. Let's us not care what others our doing daily in their lives. However, taking an inspiration costs nothing. But, let's be grown up friends. We can't keep thinking of the failure and torturing ourselves. Life must go on. Fix your own desires in life and make it very clear in your mind about the primary things needed to achieve them. You will be at least satisfied about the fact that you were walking on the right track. Your decision will benefit only you and no one else.

START living for yourself first and your GOALS. When you begin to execute the desired algorithms, only then you can think of living for others as well. Do not let yourself carried away by failures. Start again and make yourself better.

Your Success and Failure is in your hand

New Year 2011 : Year of Realization and Action

A new year 2011 has arrived. At the beginning of every new year we do make new RESOLUTIONS and make sure that we'll be determined throughout the year to follow them. Practically, such resolutions keep us active if followed correctly. Almost everyone claims that "Resolutions are meant to be broken", since it is truly very difficult to chase the resolutions. Even I am also one of those gentle people. Let us now understand and conclude the nature of grounds on which our Resolutions should be constructed and how can we chase them properly.

On the first day of a new year I look back into my life and question myself- "Have I been good?", "Have I performed my duties correctly?" and many more. My questioning side expects a simple and honest "Yes". But, the answer is generally out of the expectations of my questioning side. I realize that "The more I worked, the less it was". It is almost impossible to convince our desires and expectations. It is like "The more we get, the more we crave".

However, we should never stop keeping desires in front of our faith, ability, intelligence and our past

After getting an answer to such torturing but very crucial questions, I decide if I passed or failed. I hardly get 60% marks. Such a terrible percentage, Isn't it? Sad after getting a horrible result card of this test, my mind scolds me and my heart teases me. Such lively physical parts of my body remain as good as objects. But the hypothetical parts of my body like faith, ability and intelligence overpower them with confidence, a new life and a new belief. 

In the third stage, I perform decision making which is the most important part of all the stages. My friends generally tell me that, "Making resolutions is the easiest job. Just decide what you want and make resolutions". I feel- This is not it. Analyzing the present status of my life and the answers to the questions I got during the first stage, I resolve to new Resolutions. These resolutions are meant to challenge my failure and patience. My resolutions are meant to beautify my life status and maintain it fearlessly. The most common among all my resolutions every year is to be like God RAM, prince of Ayodhya. He was one of the few humans whose desires, talent and general behavior or manners, all coincided to produce a beautiful image of an idol human with immense perfection and excellence.

The fourth and the final stage is the toughest of them all. The beginning of this stage is marked by the time when we start following the resolutions. Resolutions can be handled only through will power and strong belief in our desire and hard work. 

Talent is the sum of Hard work and big dreams, nothing else

Believe your talent and start working on your resolutions. Never ever think that you are less talented. Conclusively, I urge you to surely make resolutions. The resolution-making process helps us to analyze our mistakes. Realization of mistakes helps us to know our duties. Performing actions to recover our mistakes give us confidence to rise again from fall. Hence, make a simple but a very ambitious resolution today itself and have will power to follow them at your present life to have a beautiful future.

GOOD LUCK